Don't Postpone Joy

I like to feel Joy. Do you?

For participating at my friend Marisa’s wedding in 2008, she gave a customized gift to those in her bridal party. Instead of a box of chocolate or a tote bag, she gave her bridal party a piece of art that was personalized to their spirit. Not only did she want to build meaningful memories through her wedding, but she also wanted to support local artists. That’s pretty classy if you ask me.

She knows I love to produce events and create inspiring content ,so, for my bridal party gift she got me a photograph of a sign that says “All I want to be is someone that makes new things and thinks about them”. I love that picture. On the days that my business has its challenges, all I need to do is look at that print and it serves as my reminder that one day soon, I’ll be able to sit and watch my next project come to life.
The picture reminds me that the longer I drag my feet to make something real, the longer it is until I get to enjoy watching it bring joy to others.

It’s one thing to think about your dream and say, I’ll create that one day” and it’s entirely different to start and make it friggin’ happen.

I had the chance to see Edie Windsor, the LGBT rights activist, talk the week she won her revolutionary case in 2013 that changed the landscape of benefits for same-sex marriages. In her talk she said she and her late wife Thea had a quote on their refrigerator that said “Don’t Postpone Joy”. That mindset was a driving force in their relationship.

Imagine all the memories, gratifications, love, and sharing that would have been missed if they postponed their joy until society accepted that a same sex couple could get married. Imagine how much longer the milestones towards same sex marraiges would have taken if her and her wife postponed the joy.

A chapter ended last week, when Edie Windsor passed away at the age of 88 years young. I didn’t know her personally, but she seemed like someone who certainly let inspiration be her lifestyle. So as fellow thought-leaders, let’s honor her memory and her ground breaking contribution to our world by reflecting on our own lives by asking the following question:

Where do you postpone joy?

Write your answer down in the comments section. Or e-mail me. Or write it on a scrap of paper and hand it to someone. Make your words real. Don’t just think your answer. The problem all along is you’ve been only “thinking” your ideas. Start here by getting them out of your head. Make them real.

I’ll ask it again: Where do you postpone joy?

Get in the habit of making things real everywhere in your life, not just answering this question. Even if it’s something tiny. It’s too easy to think about something and not make the move. Making a move forward requires energy. Here’s the thing: tiny movements add up. They create momentum– with enough  you too can sit and think about what you’ve created.

Like Edie and Thea, don’t postpone joy. You have a lot of unique thoughts inside of you.

Let me know when you make them real.


Not Postponing the Legacy of You,
Michael Ian


BTW: Want a little bump in the rump? A little dose of inspiration?

Come join me at the next Legacy Show in NYC on Monday 10/2/17 .

This month’s theme is “Taking Back Control”

These are three speakers who don’t postpone joy. Here their stories first hand.

You can watch the Legacy Show new  trailer here to start getting reved up.







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